You probably put a lot of planning into your wedding — so why would you do any less for your divorce?
Unfortunately, too many people get caught up in the emotions surrounding divorce and act without a plan — which always ends up being a problem. To save yourself a lot of headaches amid the heartache, follow these tips instead:
Think about finances
One of the first things you need to do is make a budget for your exit plan and figure out how much money you’re going to need to start over. Start putting aside the money you’re going to need for a security deposit, first and last month’s rent, utilities, a few basic pieces of furniture and general moving expenses. Then find out how much the attorney of your choice needs as a retainer to handle your divorce and make sure that you can cover that plus a little more. You don’t want to make your exit until you’re sure you’re on solid financial footing.
Carefully select your support system
Everyone mentally preparing to go through a divorce needs some emotional support, but it could be disastrous if you confide in the wrong person too early. Rule out any friends you and your spouse share jointly or relatives that are close with your spouse — they may feel compelled to tell your spouse what you’re planning out of a sense of loyalty or guilt. If you aren’t absolutely sure whom you can confide in, find a therapist for support.
Establish your end goals
Everyone wants something a little different out of their divorce — so decide early what your real goals are and focus in on those from the start. For example, if you want physical custody of the children, you know you’re going to need more than just your word to convince the judge that your spouse shouldn’t be parenting alone. Talk to your attorney early about the sort of evidence you need to make your case and collect what you can before you make your move.
For more information on divorce or to discuss your case, talk to an attorney today.
Source: DivorceSupport.com, “20 Strategies to Consider Before Getting Started,” accessed July 28, 2017