Dividing up the family unit is undoubtedly one of the toughest aspects of divorce. No parent wants to have to tell their child that they will no longer live with both parents. The process of explaining divorce to your child will vary according to the child's age. Similarly, the way that you approach child custody should be in accordance with the child's age, too.
When approaching child custody, you should work hard to cast your own emotions aside. You should reflect on what is truly best for your children, and work from there. If you are worried that the process of child custody will create toxicity and stress, it is important that you learn how to act in a way that will minimize negativity.
Plan for real life, not for an ideal scenario
It can be easy to have an optimistic view of how you will handle life as a single parent. If you also have a job, you will need to be realistic about scheduling, and be careful not to overestimate the amount of time you will be able to spend with your children.
Don't be negative about your ex
It is vital that children have a positive view of both of their parents. If you talk negatively about your ex in front of your children, it may cause them to become emotionally confused, and it can lead to self-esteem issues.
It's important that you think carefully about the way you approach child custody conversations between your ex-partner and your children. By setting off on the right foot, you will have a greater chance of success in the years to come.