Marriage is a big commitment — so how do you know when it’s time to call it quits? If you’re struggling to determine whether your marriage can still be saved or not, here are the signs that a relationship is truly over:
1. You’re provoking fights.
If you find yourself looking for an argument with your spouse, the odds are good that you’re looking for a way to end things. You may be subconsciously pushing your spouse to make the first move, however, so that you feel less guilty.
2. You’re no longer friends.
Your spouse should be the first person you go to in order to share your joys and your sorrows. If you’ve found a substitute — even a platonic one — you’ve mentally moved on.
3. You’re already planning.
If you’ve started financially, emotionally and physically distancing yourself from your spouse — making yourself as independent as possible without actually moving out — that’s a sign that the partnership that was your marriage is over.
4. Your goals no longer match.
When’s the last time you talked goals with your spouse? If you’re making plans for the future that are focused solely around your needs and wants, that’s a sign that you don’t really intend to stay in the relationship — even if you haven’t yet acknowledged the reality.
5. You’re wearing a mask.
If you can’t be yourself with your spouse, that’s a recipe for a deeply unfulfilling relationship. Similarly, you may find yourself presenting a rosy picture of life on your social media pages that feels far from the truth.
If you’re thinking about a divorce more often than not, it may be time to find out more about your legal rights.